Dealing With Disappointment: The Discovery That Completely Changed My Way of Thinking

Welcome back to Hope Springs Journal, the blog that has is all! Today’s post is a little different than what I’ve posted in the past. This is more of a self-experience story. Covid-19 has affected each of us in many different ways. And I know I’ve been writing about this subject a lot, but today I discovered something that completely changed my way of thinking. Keep reading to learn more about my discovery and coping methods.

You are not alone: my experience

First of all, I’m going to tell you a bit about what I’ve been going through. For me, it always helps to read and hear these types of things to know that I’m not alone in this. As you already know if you’ve read my past blog posts, I am currently in the eighth grade. I don’t even know when or even if I’m going to be going to high school in the next year. That definitely worries me a lot.

I’m also really missing out on a lot of things that I had really looked forward to this year. My school is different than most. We have so many amazing activities that the eighth graders get to participate in. There’s a field day where we get to play lots of fun games outside, the teachers soak us with water guns in an obstacle course, and we face the teachers and parents in tug-of-war. We have a breakfast where the 7th graders have to serve us and we watch this tear-jerking slide show of all we’ve been through together as a class. We get to act out fairy tales for the younger kids such as Goldilocks and the Three Bears and Jack and the Beanstalk. We have a dinner dance where we practice traditional dances for a couple months before the event and get partnered up with another student of the opposite gender, get dressed up nicely for a night when we perform these dances, eat an amazing dinner, and it’s been a tradition for years. We have a really nice graduation ceremony where we sing a song that we would have been practicing that we chose. We had actually already picked out a song. The song we picked was I Lived by OneRepublic. Now almost every time I hear the song I cry because this song was just perfect for our class. And I mean, come on! 2020 is the perfect year to graduate…or so I had thought.

I have been waiting nine years, since when I went to kindergarten at that school, to participate in all these events, and now that it’s here, I can’t. We can’t just postpone these events. They aren’t going to happen, and I have to learn to accept that. There are so many more things that I’m missing out on as well as all of these. I was going to visit family in Iowa for a week this summer. My brother is graduating from college, but now he’s not going to have his commencement ceremony. I was going to be Confirmed into my Church on May 9th; that’s been postponed.

There has been so much disappointment these past few months, seemingly enough for a lifetime. The worst part is, I feel as if I should just get used to it.

How we can cope

The only thing we can do in these kinds of situations is learn to cope. The first thing we need to do for our own mental health is know that it’s totally okay to feel disappointed, frustrated, angry. We have every right to feel these things. But we can’t let these feelings get in the way of moving on and living our lives, even if it seems as though they have been put on hold. So, get it over with now, just cry and complain and rip up some napkins.

Now that we’ve gotten that out of the way, we have to come up with a way to cope and use some self-discipline to get our emotions under control. Now we have to turn all the negativity we can into positivity. And that leads us to my discovery story…

My discovery

During my at-home workout every day I like to listen to podcasts. Just the other day, I came across She Podcast by Jordan Lee Dooley. I had started the episode about moving forward when you plans fall apart.

Today, I got in my workout clothes, moved the rug in my room, and turned opened up the Spotify app to the She Podcast episode I had been listening to. I was about halfway through the episode when she said something that made me stop everything I was doing.

She said that instead of focusing on the all the opportunities we’ve missed out on, focus on all the new opportunities coming from this. She said to write a list of our obstacles created by Covid-19, and then write another list of the opportunities opened up by these obstacles. That was kind of hard to explain, and probably didn’t make any sense. So, here are some examples:

Obstacles:

  • Confirmation postponed
  • Summer vacation plans canceled
  • Can’t go out

New Opportunities:

  • Chance to grow closer to God and know Him better before getting Confirmed
  • Have more time to plan an even better trip, maybe at a better time
  • Chance to improve myself

This just makes so much sense to me. It helps me see the good in this. Maybe this is why it’s all happening this way. Step back and look at even the little things. If I hadn’t had all this time at home, I’d still be blogging only once a month with my total of 5 followers. I also wouldn’t have had all this time to watch some really good Netflix shows. I just started Stranger Things. I know, I’m super late watching that, but I hadn’t really had the time before. It’s super good, by the way, so if you haven’t already watched that, you definitely should!

The things that have helped me the most during this time are the things I had all along but never really had the time to truly enjoy them. So, after you’ve finished reading this, have followed this blog, and followed me on social media @hope.springs.journal, pick up that book you’ve been wanting to read since January, watch your favorite movie, teach your dog how to roll over, look at life from a new perspective and enjoy the little things.

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